The intent to create anxiety and panic by the media and the government ghouls, has done more damage than any virus possibly could. There needs to be a reckoning for these people.
>Since then I have been doing my best to improve my life but it has been extremely difficult knowing that I destroyed myself and have nothing to show for it.
Not true. You have this experience which was an excellent teacher, should you allow it to be.
First of all, you should never have allowed yourself to be obese. Sorry, this is tough love I'm giving, but you owe it to your body and yourself to take care of yourself physically. Learn to enjoy going to the gym, take up strength training, move your body, sweat and enjoy the fact you can. This will do wonders for your self-esteem and you'll attract your woman again. Eat well. Stop drinking. Drink more water daily.
Second of all, with your overall improvement in health you can stop being afraid of the pandemic-du-jour genned up by our overlords. Your health is under your control, not theirs. Act like it.
Lastly, love life, even if it doesn't bring you where you expected to be. Embrace it wholeheartedly and stop letting fear drive you. Take those lessons you learned and grow your life in an exceptional way like you never have before.
You're stronger now, even if you don't realize it. Don't allow the negativity and the fear to define you--you define you.
You reacted in a completely normal human manner: you are not blame (yourself) for that. Do not confuse regrets and understanding yourself, with blame: that is unfair to you.
You must put your life back together again, one piece at a time starting with the basics and recognising what actions and events are in your control and what are outside it. What we can control we are responsible for, what we cannot we must adapt to, avoid or circumvent.
Do not make this experience the core of your identity: if you do you will forever be a slave to the industry of professional victimhood, and you will never feel free.
It happened. You dealt with it. Life goes on. Trite and clichéd yes, for the simple reason that it is truth. Like this: when hiking, you might have to traverse a fetid rancid swamp to get to a campsite. Are you going to let the swamp define your whole trek, or is it one part of it?
DJ, life is filled with risk and uncertainty. Sometimes it takes a catharsis to shake us up. The great news is that you’re only 35! You have decades to grow, physically, mentally and spiritually. I was going to “lecture” you on your admitted obesity, but I see dooglio below beat me to it. Let me just say, being healthy and fit will give you a high better than any drug or music set you might play. Make it lifestyle. It will reward you immensely. Here’s a great proverb I recently came across: “a healthy man has countless hopes and wishes, but a sick man has but one.” Second, you mentioned you were praying. Do you know to whom? Have you sought a personal relationship with our Lord and savior Jesus Christ? Through Him all things are possible. God did not send his son for us to cower behind in fear of the pain and challenges we face in our brief time on earth, but instead instill in us the courage and confidence to go forth in battle against the evils and obstacles of this physical world. Your friend saved your life for a reason. It is time to put this painful chapter in your life behind you and move forward. Proverbs 3: 5-6.
The intent to create anxiety and panic by the media and the government ghouls, has done more damage than any virus possibly could. There needs to be a reckoning for these people.
>Since then I have been doing my best to improve my life but it has been extremely difficult knowing that I destroyed myself and have nothing to show for it.
Not true. You have this experience which was an excellent teacher, should you allow it to be.
First of all, you should never have allowed yourself to be obese. Sorry, this is tough love I'm giving, but you owe it to your body and yourself to take care of yourself physically. Learn to enjoy going to the gym, take up strength training, move your body, sweat and enjoy the fact you can. This will do wonders for your self-esteem and you'll attract your woman again. Eat well. Stop drinking. Drink more water daily.
Second of all, with your overall improvement in health you can stop being afraid of the pandemic-du-jour genned up by our overlords. Your health is under your control, not theirs. Act like it.
Lastly, love life, even if it doesn't bring you where you expected to be. Embrace it wholeheartedly and stop letting fear drive you. Take those lessons you learned and grow your life in an exceptional way like you never have before.
You're stronger now, even if you don't realize it. Don't allow the negativity and the fear to define you--you define you.
You reacted in a completely normal human manner: you are not blame (yourself) for that. Do not confuse regrets and understanding yourself, with blame: that is unfair to you.
You must put your life back together again, one piece at a time starting with the basics and recognising what actions and events are in your control and what are outside it. What we can control we are responsible for, what we cannot we must adapt to, avoid or circumvent.
Do not make this experience the core of your identity: if you do you will forever be a slave to the industry of professional victimhood, and you will never feel free.
It happened. You dealt with it. Life goes on. Trite and clichéd yes, for the simple reason that it is truth. Like this: when hiking, you might have to traverse a fetid rancid swamp to get to a campsite. Are you going to let the swamp define your whole trek, or is it one part of it?
DJ, life is filled with risk and uncertainty. Sometimes it takes a catharsis to shake us up. The great news is that you’re only 35! You have decades to grow, physically, mentally and spiritually. I was going to “lecture” you on your admitted obesity, but I see dooglio below beat me to it. Let me just say, being healthy and fit will give you a high better than any drug or music set you might play. Make it lifestyle. It will reward you immensely. Here’s a great proverb I recently came across: “a healthy man has countless hopes and wishes, but a sick man has but one.” Second, you mentioned you were praying. Do you know to whom? Have you sought a personal relationship with our Lord and savior Jesus Christ? Through Him all things are possible. God did not send his son for us to cower behind in fear of the pain and challenges we face in our brief time on earth, but instead instill in us the courage and confidence to go forth in battle against the evils and obstacles of this physical world. Your friend saved your life for a reason. It is time to put this painful chapter in your life behind you and move forward. Proverbs 3: 5-6.